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Five Key Points to Building Self Esteem
A major key to building self-esteem and developing a healthy body image is loving who you are. I know, it is easier said than done. This is a hard task when you are constantly inundated with negative thoughts and feelings about you. Getting to a healthy self-esteem or body image will not happen overnight. Just like anything else it will take some work, but it can be accomplished.
The first thing you need to do is stop the pity party. You know what I am talking about those moments that you sit, cry and complain about what’s not right. You make your own happiness. What I mean by that is you have a choice to be happy or sad. You can choose to waddle in self pity or you can pick yourself up and move forward. It is your choice.
The second thing is change your speech or the things you say about yourself. When you look into the mirror what do you see? Is the first thing that pops into your head something negative? Is the first thing you say something negative about the way you look? Stop! It is time to focus on the positive things, the good attributes. Focus on what you like and build from there.
The third thing you can do is love on yourself. Do something that makes you feel good. Pamper yourself, take a nature walk, whatever it is make sure it is something you love and enjoy doing. This not only makes you feel good, it also shows everyone else that you love yourself and take pride in who you are.
The fourth thing you should do is surround yourself with positive people. Build a support network. These are people that have your best interest at hand. Your support network can consist of family and friends that will build you up and encourage you when you are down. They will tell you the truth in love so that you continue to grow as a person. This is important and key to your transformation.
The fifth thing is understanding that everything is a process. These things will not fall into place overnight. You have to work at them. If you have a bad day, don’t go back to the pity parties. Remember tomorrow is a new day and you can start over. Don’t give up!
Kenya Johnson, M.P.G.C. http://www.thetotalmakeover.com
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Overcoming Personal Deficiencies – The Rational Approach
By John Vespasian
Few are able to keep a cool head when facing insurmountable obstacles. Frustration derived from hardship leads many to despair. When misfortune and tragedy strike, empty promises won’t help. What advice can be given to those who suffer from physical deficiencies or find themselves discriminated on the basis of their origin, background, or personal history?
Television and magazines are full of recommendations for disadvantaged individuals. “Be positive and have confidence,” they are told. “Better times are coming.” On many occasions, such bromides are dispensed by those who have never encountered serious problems in life or who have inherited most of what they possess.
No wonder that envy and discouragement are rampant in contemporary society, possibly more than in any previous era of humanity. Already in the year 326 B.C., Aristotle emphasized the importance of seeking virtue as a way to attain happiness. Unfortunately, the voice of the philosopher seems long forgotten.
Nowadays, many of those affected by personal deficiencies, instead of seeking out a rational response, turn to nihilism, obsession, or revenge. None of those approaches works, none of them has ever improved anything. What is the reason of their popularity? Why do people follow those paths?
* Nihilism will deprive your life of direction, replacing ambition by neglect and dereliction. Your vision will become blurred and you will be reduced to perceiving, from everything, the worst. Purpose will be buried by random decisions, convictions will turn into derision.
* Obsession will narrow your range to the minimum, pushing you to devote every hour to senseless goals, such as acquiring fame and power. History tells of many small men who became murderers to enhance their feeling of self-importance. This is not the way.
* Revenge will waste your life by focusing your attention on past misfortune. Getting even seldom solves problems and frequently results in additional harm. Revenge will consume your efforts and resources, leaving you empty-handed, sad, and mad at yourself.
The rational approach to dealing with personal deficiencies and bad luck starts and ends with reality. Cards are not evenly distributed in the game of life. Expecting others to compensate you for present or past trouble is unlikely to improve your situation. If anything, pity and compassion will paralyse you. What to do then? In my view, these four are the steps that one should follow:
1.- UNIQUENESS: You are unique in your genetic characteristics and personal circumstances. Do not compare yourself with others. It is irrational and brings nothing but misery.
2.- ACTION: Discard unrealistic expectations and decide to make the best of your situation. Look for practical solutions. Assess different alternatives. Make a plan and implement it.
3.-PERSISTENCE: Realize that, more often than not, focused long-term activity is able to counterbalance personal deficiencies, major obstacles, and even tragedy. Keep on advancing on your chosen path and don’t look back.
4.- SERENITY: If you ask around, you will find plenty of examples of people who have succeeded despite overwhelming burdens. Maintain your serenity and trust the principle of cause and effect. There is no guarantee of success, but intelligent persistence has proven many times to work.
“Wisdom is the most general of sciences,” observed Aristotle, “since it requires man to know principles and to follow them. Prudence, on the other hand, is a virtue concerned with the particulars of human action. Prudent is the man who can tell, at the same time, what is the best and what is feasible for him.”
JOHN VESPASIAN writes about rational living. He has resided in New York, Madrid, Paris, and Munich. His stories reflect the values of entrepreneurship, tolerance, and self-reliance. See John Vespasian’s blog about rational living.
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How Can Goals Help You Succeed and Prosper? Is Anything Possible?
By Cesar Tapia
What are goals?
Goals are the foundation of what makes us succeed and prosper in life. Goals make our dreams possible. Goals are a passageway that help you achieve what you want in life.
Some of the goals might want to have are wealth, health prosperity, success, and these goals are within reach. The only thing that holds you back are excuses, conditioned beliefs and the lack of being proactive.
For example, If you want to pass a final exam at your school, get a promotion at work, or you would like to loose an X amount of weight by X amount of time, it will require you to take action, not just wishful thinking. You can sit on the couch, bed, car, shower thinking and wishing how you HOPE to achieve these outcomes but without setting a goal you will get no where.
In other words a goal is simply a passage way that defines how you will get where you want and what you want. Goals also define a time line as to what you will be doing in the next coming months, days, weeks or hours.
How do you achieve goals?
First you have to define the amount of time you want to achieve that outcome. Below I will define how goals are setup.
Short term goals: Can range from one day, to a couple months and are usually straight forward. These goals have to be something you will be able to achieve with in that amount of time for example: I will loose 10lbs by the end of this month.
Mid Term goals: Range from 3 to 6 months. These goals should require you to do a little more thinking and really give you a challenge as to what you can do in that amount of time. For example; In six months I will go to Hawaii no matter what.
Long term: Usually range from 12 months and on.
These goals can and should be able to be outside of your comfort zone. These goals can be for example: Within the next 12 months I will be making 6 figures.
What is important to achieve goals?
It is important to be consistent when you set goals. When you set goals start with your long term goals and start working towards your short term goals for example:
If I want to achieve a six figure income withing the next 12 months, Loose weight within X amount of time, what do I need to do to get there and start outlining them till the current day.
Then when you have your goals setup, you need to setup a daily to do list. This list doesn’t have to be something that takes all of your day, just maybe something you can do for 1 hour a day or maybe even 30 min. a day and follow it without excuses.
You have the time to set and apply actions to the goals you want. If you are too busy at work you can take action in your breaks or lunch or before or right after work.
Everything is possible if you set your mind to it!!
If are serious and you would like to achieve a substantial income within the next 12 months. Contact me and we will have a short conversation to see if I can help you out. Provided you qualify, I’ll show you the exact system many use to generate 6 figures in the next six months from home.
Cesar Tapia
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Success is a choice.
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Here are five images to be found on Flickr on the subject of inspiration. To each one I have added a short title to indicate in what way each image inspires. Take a look and see how they inspire you.
Aim Higher
by ~MVI~
Stay Calm
Enjoy Life
Survive
by xavi300
Persevere
by Markus_76
There are times when each of us needs inspiration. Inspiration either to do something new or different, or inspiration to keep going to achieve our aim. Inspiration is perhaps the source of our motivation, motivation to change or achieve.
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5 Things You Must Do Before a Job Interview
By Melanie Szlucha
So you just found out that you have a job interview tomorrow and unfortunately procrastination is a weaknesses you haven’t yet conquered. Here are the down and dirty tips to pull it together at the last minute.
1. Look at the job posting you are applying for, and develop sound bites that address the needs of the employer. Think of examples where you demonstrated the skills that appear in the job posting and develop answers that clearly show an employer that you are the perfect candidate for this position. All sound bites should be 2-3 minutes in length.
2. Use the TODAY acronym to develop additional sound bites of your experiences. TODAY stands for Teamwork, Overcoming Obstacles, Duties of your past positions, Achievements, Your strengths and weaknesses. Remember to clearly describe exactly what you did in each situation. The employer is hiring you, not the other people in your story.
3. Research the company. Search the internet for any recent press releases and check out the company’s website. Know what they do, and develop some idea as to how the position you are hiring for fits within the company.
4. Think of questions to ask an interviewer. Look at the job posting and your research about the company and think of 3-5 questions you can ask during the interview. What are you curious about? Do they manufacture a product you are familiar with, or never even knew existed before you started to research the company? Where does this department fit in the grand scheme of the company? What projects is the department currently working on?
5. Lastly, prepare answers to the following questions: Tell me about yourself, Why did you leave your last position, or why are you looking for a new job, Why should I hire you, and The Salary Question. You know that these questions will be asked in one form or another, so there is no excuse to not have prepared an answer.
And that’s it. Interviewing is just that simple when it’s broken into it’s simplest components. Focus on preparing answers to all of the scenarios above, and you will be ahead of the game. Remember to clearly articulate in each and every sound bite exactly what you did. Practice with a tape recorder to critique yourself, or with a friend to repeat back to you exactly what you did in a situation to make sure you’re preparing correctly.
For more tips, use the link below to purchase the booklet “Successful Job Interviews Revealed.”, or attend the upcoming “Sweaty Palms and Awkward Answers” Continuing Education class in Stamford. And yes, I am always willing to try to fit in a last minute coaching appointment for interview emergencies.
© Red Inc. Melanie Szlucha
Melanie Szlucha has been a hiring manager for over 10 years. She founded Red Inc. two years ago to help people become more relaxed and prepared during the job interview process. Combining presentation and communication skills with her experience in conducting job interviews, she is able to coach job applicants through landing their perfect job. She is available for individual coaching, classes for employers and interviewees and can be contacted on her website http://www.redinc.biz or melanie at redinc.biz
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Get Hired With These 7 Interview Techniques
By Damen Choy
Despite all the advances in technology and communications these days, the traditional rules still hold when it comes to interview techniques that will get you hired. Whether you’re applying to a global corporation or a small company, the most important part of an interview is that you have a winning presentation. This is usually the key factor in determining whether you get the job.
Once you have created an effective resume and have sent your resume to prospective employers, the next step is to try and obtain an interview. This can be done by phone or in person. Chances are you will first meet an administrative assistant or receptionist. This person could be the key to your future in terms of helping you to get an interview or providing information about the company, so remember to be polite and friendly.
Once an interview is scheduled, your personal appearance and behavior are critical factors which could decide whether your job search is successful.
Here are 7 important steps to help you improve your interview techniques.
Interview Techniques #1 – Proper Preparation
To make sure you’re on time for the interview, find out ahead of time where the interview is and how to get there. Give yourself plenty of time to get dressed and get there on time. As a matter of courtesy, make sure your cell phone is turned off before the interview.
Plan to dress in a manner which is appropriate for the job. Your appearance will determine the first impression the interviewer has of you. Take care in your grooming before the interview, and be aware of your body language during the interview. Good posture will help to give an overall good impression.
Interview Techniques #2 – Do the Research
Use every possible resource to learn about a company before you interview there. You should be prepared to answer question about why you’re interested in the company or what you’ve heard about it. Make sure you know what the company does and if possible a little bit about its history. Be familiar with the company profile.
While it’s a good idea to prepare some answers to questions ahead of time, avoid memorizing your responses. You need to sound unscripted and as natural as possible. Rehearse an overview of what you want to say, but keep it spontaneous.
Interview Techniques #3 – Keep your Cool
When you meet the interviewer, remember to look him or her in the eye and be prepared to return a handshake if offered. A polite greeting and friendly smile are in order. Only take a seat after it’s offered. Thank the interviewer for taking the time to meet with you. Keep your demeanor and comments positive.
Interview Techniques #4 – Sell Yourself
As you’re being interviewed, answer all questions as honestly as possible. Honesty and sincerity are both important interview techniques. Make your answers concise and not unnecessarily wordy. Do your best to convey to the interviewer what type of employee you will be and what you will offer the company. When asked about previous employers, stay as positive as possible.
If this is your first job, don’t be intimidated by your lack of experience. Emphasize your skills and talents, and let the employer know that you are confident and eager to learn.
One of the most important interview techniques is to see through the eyes of the employer. If you were the one doing the hiring, what qualities would you look for? What benefit would the employer gain in hiring you?
Lastly, don’t be afraid to sell yourself, but at the same time avoid the appearance of over confidence. Project an air of confidence without sounding like a know-it-all.
Interview Techniques #5 – Ask the Right Questions
Show the interviewer that you know the right questions to ask. Express an interest in knowing exactly what your responsibilities will be. If you come across an interviewer who does all of the talking, don’t be intimidated. Politely try to ask questions which will give you the chance to discuss your qualifications for the job.
Interview Techniques #6 – The Wrap Up
As the interview comes to a close, make sure that you’ve covered all the important points. This is not the time to ask about salary and benefits. Save those questions for the job offer or follow up interview.
Summarize you strengths and skills and re-emphasize your positive traits. Find out what the next steps are in the interview and job decision process. Thank the interviewer for taking the time to meet with you and make sure to leave a final good impression.
Interview Techniques #7 – The Follow Up
After the interview, another of the important interview techniques is to follow up with a thank you note to each person who interviewed you. Thank him or her for their time and for giving you the opportunity to apply for a job.
I wish you every success in your job hunting!
Damen Choy Author and Editor of http://InstantCareerAdvice.com, a career website providing career advancement and job hunting advice. Damen’s best-selling book about job interview is available at Amazon.com and http://www.a-better-job-interview.com
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The first step to success can be the most important one and yet it is surprising how few of us really know what the first step is. In this article, Darryl Mobley presents his view of what the first step to success really is.
What is the First Step to Success?
By Darryl Mobley
I am asked this question or some version of it almost everyday.
My answer is always the same. Sometimes that answer energizes the person who asked the question. Sometimes the answer scares the person. Sometimes it angers.
No matter. The answer doesn’t change.
The answer is: Taking responsibility for everything about your life.
For many, this is very difficult to accept. No matter. Again – The answer doesn’t change.
You are responsible for the life you live.
What you have done or not done has created your reality. Your actions or inaction have determined the quality of your relationships, the amount of money you make, where you live, your weight, your job, your education, your personal debt, your health, the behavior of your children, and your destiny.
You know it’s true. But sometimes we try to convince ourselves that forces outside of ourselves are the cause of our shortcomings. I think that I’ve heard it all: I smoke because I’m on a diet. I am overweight because of carbs. I live here because I’m near family. I’m unhappy because of my boyfriend. My kids fell prey to peer pressure. And on and on and on. If it’s negative, it must be someone else’s fault. If it’s positive, we tend to grab all the credit. You may have heard the saying:
Failure is an orphan. Success has many fathers.
Outside forces do not control your destiny. YOU control your destiny – and the here and now – 100%.
The power is in accepting total responsibility.
Let’s take a different look at this.
“If you want to Live Your Best Life, you must decide to commit yourself to
creating winning thoughts, actions, habits, skills and goals.”
Let’s say that you don’t like your ballooning weight. Your weight is not the fault of your kids, or your job requirements, or how much you travel, or the baby you had 2 years ago. Your heaviness is a result of what you choose to put in your mouth and how often you choose to exercise. If you accept this reality, then you can take charge of your weight. Taking charge might include adding 15 minutes of walking to your daily schedule. Or, you might adjust what you eat and when you eat. Or both.
Let’s say that your business sales and profits are not where you want them to be. This is not something that you can simply blame on the economy and leave it at that. Your business sales and profits are controlled by your marketing, your level of innovation, the quality of your sales staff and selling efforts, and the relevance of what you have to offer to customers. We know that some of the greatest companies in the history of the world were started during times of economic distress. If you accept this reality, then you can take your sales and profits to new heights by taking powerful business-growth actions to best meet customer needs and outperform competition. [
Let’s say that you are not satisfied with your life. Your sour attitude about your circumstances is not caused by the weather, your neighborhood, the government, your spouse, your (knucklehead) kids, your boss, your job, or your in-laws. Your sour attitude is a result of what you choose to think, what you choose to do, what you choose to listen to, and with whom you choose to do what you do. If you accept this reality, then you can make the changes needed to create the life of your dreams. You may choose to re-program your thinking by reading and listening to personal development books and audio programs. (I have read some 3,000+ books on personal development and I am sure that my thinking has been dramatically enhanced by this activity of choice.) You may need to uplevel your parenting skills so that you help your kids achieve enhanced outcomes. You may need to re-calibrate your relationship skills so that you can move your marriage or dating situation to a better place, or get out altogether. You may need to get your butt into a job you can feel good about.
I certainly encourage you to take strength from what’s good in your life. We all have positives to take from aspects of our lives.
That said, stomp out the habit of complaining and blaming others for what you have – or don’t have – in your life. This is a key to moving forward.
What you take responsibility for – you can then expand, create, or delete from your life. Success, failure, good times, bad times, mistakes, happiness, unhappiness – they are all within your hands. You will do great things. You may also really screw up. No matter. It’s all on you! If you are in a bad position, get out! If you’ve made a mistake, correct it starting right now!
This critical distinction represents immense power and I share it with all of my coaching clients.
Here’s how you use your immense power:
1. You must BELIEVE in your power.
2. Don’t give up your power. You are your own magic genie. You are your own King/Queen. YOU are the ruler of your destiny.
3. Demand (of yourself) total responsibility for your results.
4. Don’t blame others and don’t complain about where you are. This is negative energy that won’t improve your circumstances.
5. Assess where you are. Face the truth. Make the changes you need to make — now. If others don’t support your desire to improve your situation, do what the great Harriet Tubman did when she first escaped to freedom from slavery and her brothers turned back due to fear —- move on without them.
6. Ask for what you need. Seek what you want. Knock to open the doors to your better destiny.
“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.”
You are your own Superman/Wonder Woman because you are now in tune with the secret to the greatest powers of them all: Taking Responsibility and Taking Action. It’s all on YOU!
Remember – You DO Deserve To Live A Great Life.
Enjoy Life!
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